"As separate individuals, we live in separate cultures haunted by the vague memory of an intimacy that we all share. Let us, all together, chase the very horizon of existence, the edge of understanding, the point at which new sensations, emotions, thoughts and ideas begin to emerge… and let us bring this intimacy alive." ~Alex Mero
Is love natural? If so, why does it seem there is so much lack of love in the world?
Love is most definitely natural, but our hearts are influenced, and therefore ‘contaminated’ by negative emotions, keeping them closed, and obscuring the truth of love. These negative emotions come about by false needs that are consistently unmet, unrealistic expectations of life that lead to frustrations, and ideals indoctrinated into us by our social environment, ideals which basically go along the line of competition rather than sharing with one another. True love is absent in false needs and meaningless expectations, and most definitely, in conflicting relationships with one another. Love is unconditional and develops naturally and effortlessly in the total surrender of our true being, in accepting and valuing all that is, just as it is…
Violence in the world is the result of the tendency we have to form groups, whether they’re national, religious, racial or otherwise. These groups are founded on imaginary differences, designed to allow more restraint groups to appropriate themselves of power. Defending these differences is the main cause of violence, since each group defines itself according to its accentuated differences.
Triggers for a need of profound personal change, is generally linked to a series of events that provoke a crisis that greatly disrupts our lives. It could be a sudden grave illness, a break-up in a relationship, the loss of a loved one, the uprooting of a profession, or very simply, a meeting with a person of great wisdom. Often these changes appear following states of great worry and suffering. It’s through these painful ordeals that doubts arise, and questions are raised. Therefore, it’s the impact these events have, that helps us become aware of the necessary changes needed to give a new and greater meaning to our lives.
In your novel, there is reverence of a relationship between spiritual partners. Can you describe what constitutes a wholesome and healthy relationship between a man and a woman?
In order for there to be a spiritual relationship, there must be a solid base of love already present between the two partners. Each individual must have the ability for intimacy with himself, and harmony between his inner duality. The couple can than experience a loving life together without need of exerting power over the other, and certainly, above all else, without waiting for the other to fulfill the love in their stead. This relationship than becomes one of healing; a choice to face, head on, one’s pain and emotional wounds, to than elevate and rise above them; to purify oneself.We cannot truly love another without first recognizing one’s own source of suffering. Once this stage is passed, love naturally unfolds through the divine source and enables unconditional love; a love that completely unites the two partners, in all its grandeur and beauty, regardless of the weight and shadows that covered it beforehand. ~Alex Mero
What are your views on fear, and does fear stall our spiritual growth?
Growing spiritually also implies that we encounter, and learn from, the darker side of our nature. Dealing with the darker side, as is the case with fear, can be seen as a “struggle” with the forces that impede our reunification with the great creative force of the universe. As we progress on our spiritual path, we will inevitably come across fear and other negative energies, but these inhibitory, and sometimes, destructive forces, have a major role within the universal order. Once we learn to conquer them, we become more aware of our specific gifts and talents. Everything is energy, and what we perceive as destructive forces, are also a form of energy, and as with all energies, they can be used both in a constructive and destructive manner. If we allow ourselves to observe with a quiet and curious mind, rather than allowing ourselves to be over-taken with the negative emotions these darker forces can bring out, then these forces become useful and a learning tool for our spiritual growth.
It’s touching and wonderful how you write about people with disabilities. Why are people born with disabilities?
Everyone is born with a form, and knows then, by definition, physical and mental limitations. The perception of these limitations is individual and depends on the way each person experiences them. In general we can say that the will to surpass these limitations allows us to develop our consciousness. Certain limitations can be overcome physically, and others not, but all limitations can be overcome within oneself; not by fighting them, but by accepting them. When we accept all our limitations, something unique emerges; something which had it been conceived differently, would never have come to be.
“Pain is indeed indispensable to our personal development because it teaches us to make a distinction between our feelings.”
“So we are obliged to suffer?” Nathan asked.
“You talked about pain and not suffering…” Songo said.
Nathan was surprised with this statement.
“Are they not the same?”
“Pain is a guide that indicates a lack of harmony and balance, in search of healing.” Songo replied.
“What is suffering than?” Nathan asked.
“Suffering is a conscious state caused by the emotional need to avoid pain. If we truly understood the nature of pain, suffering would not exist.” Songo explained.
What many people call pain, is really an emotional state called suffering. Pain is physical, a neurological response, caused by trauma or a disequilibrium in the body’s natural state. Suffering is an emotion, and it could be in response to pain or to many other things in life. Suffering is actually a choice. There are many people who live with physical pain all their lives because nothing has been found to correct the cause of the pain, but they don’t necessarily suffer. Their attitude and will power makes the difference. They are aware of the pain, but they’re determined to live full lives and not be consumed by the pain, and in this way, there is little or no suffering. There are those that have no physical pain but claim to have pain over life events, but this is self-inflicted suffering. There also those who do manifest physical pain as a result of emotional or mental suffering, such as in extreme stress or depression. It is important to understand the difference because one is a choice, although usually subconscious, and the other indicates a need to correct an unbalance in the body.