"As separate individuals, we live in separate cultures haunted by the vague memory of an intimacy that we all share. Let us, all together, chase the very horizon of existence, the edge of understanding, the point at which new sensations, emotions, thoughts and ideas begin to emerge… and let us bring this intimacy alive." ~Alex Mero
You have a pronounced preference for intuitive thought in spite of the intellectual one. But isn’t it the human intellect which engendered the state of consciousness as we know it now?
As long as thought is considered an explorative tool, it is being correctly used. When we use it as the only tool to judge, we create divisions. These divisions automatically give rise to conflicted futures, since from the moment we let our prejudices prevail, we create duality. Those on the quest for the evolution of the consciousness must be able to explore with an open mind. They must be able to listen to and consider every opinion without dismissing or accepting them. When we try to defend a particular point of view, based on our intellect, which was acquired before beginning our exploration, this exploration has no meaning, and no evolution of the consciousness is possible.
It’s with great admiration that I read your book based principally on dialogues. According to you, what is the secret for a good dialogue?
A good dialogue is defined by a sense of good will on the part of the interlocutors; the will to value truth above all. The real desire to learn is manifested by the choice of the interlocutor to “disappear”. When this desire of humility is present in both parties, there is no longer a speaker, or a listener, only observation without opinions or conclusions; just two minds together trying to bring into light what is just and true.
“At every moment of every day, an infinite amount of choices is offered to us. These choices have consequences; every decision made in the past determines our future.” Nathan explained.
“And what makes us opt for one choice as opposed to another?” Nigel asked.
“When we consciously reflect before making a choice, we always try to weigh the consequences it will have. Each of us acts this way in accordance to our understanding of things, an understanding that develops from our past experiences.” Nathan stated.
“In Central Park you talked about the importance of discovering the real source of our thoughts and feelings.” Nigel reflected.
“You remembered my words well. Indeed we have to be aware that we always decide ourselves which feelings we designate to every thought.” Nathan said.
Nigel gave himself a few moments to reflect before asking the following question:
“Isn’t each thought already linked to a particular feeling?”
“That’s often the impression we get, but in reality, we all have the ability to choose which feelings we associate with a thought. The more aware you are of this, the more you will understand things. Your choices will then become more appropriate and your actions will render you happier in the long run.” Nathan answered.
How are we “conditioned”, and can we ever completely free ourselves from it?
Wherever we are or go, we carry with us an image of ourselves. We create and re-create this image based on our thoughts, words and actions. This image was progressively installed in our minds by the influence of our culture, education, traditions, nationality, and all the things we identify ourselves with. With time, we develop certain habits and a certain structure of thought that is the origin of our behavioural patterns, which are very difficult to break free from. Our choices then, become very restrictive and our habits become the boundaries of our world. Freedom from this conditioning can only be done by gaining awareness of how our thoughts are formed, especially the persistent negative thoughts which we have been identifying ourselves with.
Before Nathan realized it, Simon got up and intercepted the waiter, held his wrists and, looking him in the eye, spoke to him in German:
“It’s always the first person to get angry that is in the wrong.”
The waiter, a little surprised, answered:
“That’s easily said. But do you know what it’s like to always be confronted with such prejudice?”
“It’s precisely in those moments that you must never forget your uniqueness. In this way, you’ll find the strength to remain in control.” Simon paused for a moment and then said:
“Consider this incident as an occasion to never feel hurt by those types of remarks.”
“What do you mean?” the waiter asked.
“For you to realize that the real question is who has control over your feelings! Is it you or is it others?” Simon answered.
“Should I let myself be insulted without reacting?”
“A noble person does not insult others, and therefore any person who utters insults should not be given any more importance then they merit. If you realize this, you’ll never feel insulted again!” Simon affirmed.
Again there was another silence. The waiter thought for a moment about Simon’s words and then became calm.
“Remember this lesson,” continued Simon “If you’ve learned from this lesson, then the pain you have felt up until now will take on a new meaning and you’ll be able to liberate yourself from it.”
How we react emotionally to situations and other people is our choice. No one has control over our feelings but we ourselves. Realizing that negativity from others has nothing to do with ourselves, but very much to do with the others who express it, is in fact liberating.
“How could you have known that we would get a table in this restaurant?” asked Nathan with curiosity.
“I just thought it was a good idea to come up here.” Simon replied.
“You have the gift of choosing well!” Nathan said with a smile.
“By following our instincts, we can set things in motion and concretize our ideas!” Simon affirmed.
Nathan was aware once more just how much Simon’s concept of life resembled that of his father’s. Another point both men had in common was that they always tried to express only positive thoughts. Nathan wanted to talk about this so he stated:
“If everyone fostered only good thoughts the world would be a better place!”
“Well, to begin with,” Simon remarked, “We would all have to know what good thoughts are.”
“That seems simple enough to me.” Nathan answered.
“Not everybody answers to the same source of knowledge to know if a thought is good. Many are those who prefer their own knowledge over that of higher knowledge.”
Nathan knew that higher knowledge was none other than the inner power which his father had talked about.
“Why isn’t everyone aware of the real usefulness of higher knowledge?” asked Nathan.
“That’s because we all individually classify our priorities in the order that seems proper to us.” Simon answered.
“But isn’t personal evolution a main priority for each one of us?” Nathan asked.
“Each one of us has our own points of view depending on what has been instilled in us.”
We assume that everyone knows the same “good” and “bad”, but really, it is a matter of perception. To some degree, we are a product of our environment; the values we were brought up with, the ideas, beliefs, priorities that we’ve been conditioned with. Understanding this, also gives a certain understanding of why people behave the way they do, and make the choices that they do. Intrinsically, though, I think people do have a certain “knowing” of what comes from Love, and what doesn’t, but depending on where they are in life, how “strong” their outer influences are, their perceptions of Truth/Love/Reality may be distorted.